Just the Two of Us
Scott Ullrich, a 45-year-old, single, gay man, made two life changing decisions three years ago; to adopt Joey, a ten year-old boy, and to leave his career in health care management, so that he could be a better parent.
Joey, now age 13, spent two years in foster care and three years in residential care at The Italian Home in Jamaica Plain. Prior to the adoption, Scott mentored Joey as part of the Big Brother program and decided he wanted to go a step further by providing a loving, permanent home for him. He thought Joey, along with many other older, waiting children, deserved this.
Scott, now business manager at UU World, the magazine of the Unitarian Universalist Association of Congregations, decided to start the process by taking his MAPP training (Massachusetts Approach to Partnerships in Parenting) with The Home. The eight-week course covers the information necessary to make an informed decision about adopting a waiting child from DSS. “I chose to adopt through The Home because they have such a sterling reputation,” he said, “Their adoption team is efficient, has great attention to detail and is always just a phone call away if I need support.”
Joey has come a long way in the last three years and is much happier for it. Scott takes Joey to soccer practice every Saturday, he’s introduced him to skiing, which he loves and he’s also developed a passion for baseball and basketball. Joey is popular with his peers, but because of the neglect he went through as a young child, he does have his struggles. He is diagnosed with posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and learning disabilities and attends special education classes at his middle school
“Although caring for Joey has its challenges, it’s all worth it,” Scott enthused. “He does have tantrums, as most teenagers do but I am a more patient person because of this and am struck by how much I love him, even when he’s at his worst. Deep down he is just a great kid.”
Scott also emphasized how much support there is out there for single parents. “The Home offers premium post-adoption services and everyone on our street in JP pitches in to help look after Joey. Without sounding too cliché, it really does take a village to raise a child.”
Joey continues to make strides and looks forward to sharing his future with a brother one day, since Scott is seriously considering adopting again. “Everyone is capable of saving a child’s life, while enriching their life in the process,” he said.
The Adoption Program at The Home for Little Wanderers is dedicated to providing permanent homes for children and offers adoption services to families interested in children of all ages. We offer couples and single persons of all races, ethnicities, sexual orientations, gender identities, socio-economic backgrounds and religions many options for starting or adding to their families. If you are interested in adopting, please call 617-927-0664.
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